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Judi Bailey, M.Ed's avatar

What an important piece on the importance of connecting. I don’t think a lot of caregivers realize that’s an option. Or they are leery of and reluctant to touch. I think that if a caregiver comes in to take care of the person while the family or primary caregiver is away, say at work, it ought to be discussed. The connection is a beautiful part of a relationship. I have it with my wife. One thing we do is talk about Substack every weekend for a couple of hours. Also, we watch news (I don’t know why) and sports.

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Jodi Sh. Doff's avatar

Touch is everything. My mom is much further along than your wife. She doesn’t walk, or stand on her own. But we still connect and human touch is essential. 🩵

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Sammie Marsalli's avatar

Thank you, Jodi. You are so right, touch is key to "connection." My wife is always reaching out for my hand. It's her way of speaking to me. We don't go anywhere without holding on to each other.

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Sammie Marsalli's avatar

Thank you, Judi. I am sure caregivers of loved ones find different ways of connecting. A warm touch is definitely heartfelt and enables an emotional bond. I don't know how I could exist without this connection which is why every day I "desperately" confirm I have it "in any way" I can with my wife.

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